Considering selfishness in ourselves is one of the most challenging, yet freeing, things we can do as believers. It helps us notice where we put ourselves before God. Then, we can do something about it. Anytime we are of greater importance than Him, our relationship with God will be stunted. Where we are selfish, we are not surrendered. Where we are not surrendered, we are not living free.

We tend to think of selfishness simplistically as pride. While pride breeds selfishness, there’s often something else going on. Self-protection. We self-protect out of fear. Also, we may have unhealed hurts or unhealthy belief patterns that cause us to close in on ourselves. We work hard to prove ourselves because we don’t feel fully approved by God.

I’m describing me here, maybe some of you too. I know how challenging it can be to admit selfishness. I also know God’s peace that follows.

Here are 10 ways I’ve noticed selfishness in myself. There are quite a few more. Perhaps some will sound familiar.

Even if it’s hard to think about, it’s worth it. I rejoice with you because humility pleases God and breeds freedom. As you consider these ten things, confess them. Ask God to lead you into a new way of living. You’ll notice an impact on how free you feel as a believer and how you engage in relationship with others.

Surrender selfishness and experience more of God’s strength each day.