Wedding planning. Pinterest-inspired living spaces. Parenting hacks. Romantic vacations and date night suggestions. If there’s one thing that we can all agree on, it’s that we’ll never suffer a lack of advice on the internet when it comes to keeping a home or making marriage great.

Opinions abound. Biases that began in childhood evolve in response to our personal experiences of dating and marriage. What do we really know about communication? Relationship giants like Gottman, Chapman, Eldredge, and others have much to teach us. Are we listening? Here are 10 things that we should never say to our husbands:

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