9. Notice Him

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As women, we like to be noticed by our husbands. We appreciate being told how nice we look or what a good job we’ve done with a project. But our men need noticing too. They need us to see how hard they work, how valuable they are, and how they are making an impact on the world.

Wives can serve their husbands with joy just by noticing them. We can point out the ways in which they make our lives better. We can acknowledge their skills and achievements. And when they feel noticed, they will likely continue to do noteworthy things.

Let’s step away from life’s busyness and actually notice our spouses. This is a simple, beautiful way to acknowledge the blessing they are to us, and to serve them with joy.

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1Thessalonians 5:11

10. Respect His Leadership

It’s been said that women most desire love in their marriage, while men desire respect. Sadly, respect for men as a whole has declined rapidly in today’s culture. Women have fought long and hard to prove themselves equal and capable. And while women are more than capable, it’s crucial for wives to respect their husband’s leadership.

To let him make the final decisions for the family is an honorable sign of respect. It doesn’t threaten women’s worth as some might believe. Instead, it affirms the perfect union God originally designed for marriage.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24

Respecting your husband’s leadership helps the marriage to run “like clockwork” and prevents unnecessary battles for dominance.

*I’d like to note here that I’m in no way condoning husbands who are abusive. I’m speaking to wives of husbands who are loving and supportive.

For more tips and ideas about serving your husband with respect for his leadership, read this article, 11 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband.

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Jennifer Waddle considers herself a Kansas girl, married to a Colorado hunk, with a heart to encourage women everywhere. She is the author of several books, including Prayer WORRIER: Turning Every Worry into Powerful Prayer, and is a regular contributor for LifeWay, Crosswalk, Abide, and Christians Care International. Jennifer’s online ministry is EncouragementMama.com where you can find her books and sign up for her weekly post, Discouragement Doesn’t Win. She resides with her family near the foothills of the Rocky Mountains—her favorite place on earth.